The Secret Path to Success - Mastering Self-Discovery
Welcome - to Part 1 of a banger new series on this blog.
The most revolutionary one yet.
I have broken a large topic down to a few core elements.
If you are a human being - this is for you.
Establish your REAL goals/desirable outcomes:
You are likely not pursuing what you truly desire. While this is arguably a consequence of your daily actions - your identity and thus, your decisions, were vastly influenced by 4 main external forces:
Society
Parents
School
Peers
This may seem obvious - or it may not. Ultimately, you are a product of external conditioning (with some heredity thrown in) and will remain so until you begin morphing your identity on your own terms.
Basically…
Embody the Person You Want to be and the Life You Want to Live.
Sound hard? Here’s a simple entry-point. Learn to ask “why?”
This simple action is often associated with conspiracy theorists. However.
“Questioning” things merely means to look for rationale in everything you are exposed to or involved in.
The point isn’t to find petty reasons not to do things you don’t want to do because you’re a lazy piece of sh*t.
The point is to understand why you are who you are and why things exist the way they do.
So, how do we do that?
Grab a pen and paper.
Write down a time horizon, e.g. “2 years” from now.
Sit and genuinely think about what your most seemingly implausible dreams are.
Worry not about your current circumstances, nor your past.
Write these down. Be specific, however, try not to exceed 1-2 lines per outcome.
Sound like goal-setting? Well, let’s get spicy. Write each outcome as if it was present.
Examples of mine are:
“My work and play time are fully integrated with one another”.
“If I stopped working today - I could live indefinitely”.
“Each month, I receive between $100,000 and $105,000.
“I take my family on my many adventures around the world and they are involved in my brand”.
This is the first step to morphing your own identity and ensuring that every decision you make is your personal choice at the end of the day.
Write these down every morning, afternoon or night and visualise each one as thoroughly as possible. Consider writing a fair amount (I have one journal page worth - line per line). Personally, I do this every second morning.
Writing in the Present
To avoid losing you in translation - let me cover a nuance of present “goal-setting”.
There exists a supposed law called the “Law of Attraction”. So before we continue, let me clarify something.
The Law of Attraction is a marketing scheme by people attempting to sell you seemingly valuable information on how you can achieve your dreams with little to no effort. Simply “ask the universe” and it will provide.
This theory is not the answer to achieving your most wildly desirable life-outcomes. However, making it clear to yourself what you desire and what you are going after, is very important.
The logic behind present goal-setting is that our memories are unreliable and we obviously cannot tell the future - thus, the only thing truly comprehensible to our brains is the present.
The reality is, if you told someone “I’m going to be [this] kind of person and achieve [some significant outcome] !” and you aren’t that person now and aren’t in the process of fulfilling that outcome - that person has no right to believe that you ever will.
“This sounds hard”.
It isn’t.
Here’s a tip when writing your outcomes… make them lifestyle-related.
For example, “my work and play time are fully integrated with each other”.
For me, I’ve been studying for the HSC and have had to make it somewhat fun. Between ASMR videos and speaking to inanimate objects - I have used these means to study while simultaneously having “breaks” - and it works!
Now I’ve started writing “My work and play time ARE fully integrated with each other”.
So, what do we do with our written outcomes now?
Take Control of Your Life - Riley C
Materialise your desires, firstly by visualisation on paper, then by taking processive action.
Take Control of You
As aforementioned, no one will believe you will achieve that big dream or become that great person, if they don’t see a hint of it right now.
It’s like looking at a product online that states, “this product has changed the lives of thousands!” - yet there isn’t a single review.
Therefore, with vigorous consistency, you must convince yourself you ARE the great person who will achieve that big dream and EMBODY them completely.
Tied to this is The Power of Choice - which I will elaborate on in Part 2 of this series.
Finally, just as the 4 main influences (society, parents, school and peers) have conditioned you up to this point, you will embody this person. Every. Single. Day.
Consider buying a journal (oh, how scary!) and writing down this new version of yourself every day. Repeat it and act the part.
Utilise the Law of Inversion
Here’s one final piece of advice for writing your desirable outcomes…
Write down all the ways you could utterly fail at achieving such a thing.
For example, for “When I’m not working, I am literally anywhere I desire”…
Ways I could fail would be:
Tie myself to a job in one singular location.
Rely on people or places in one specific location.
Have obligatory responsibilities that require me to travel somewhere else.
Become comfortable staying in one location.
Use this to more easily determine how NOT to achieve your desired outcomes.
This is powerful because our aim with this form of present goal-setting is solely to figure out WHAT we want, not HOW we are going to get there.
Pen and paper. That’s all you need for all this.
The Fabulous Five Steps to Freedom
Write down your deepest and wildest dreams and desires. Write them as if they were presently true.
Write a sentence outlining the person who would fulfil those outcomes and the traits/qualities/characteristics they would presumably have.
Write a concise description of yourself as if you inhibit all of those traits right now(even if you don’t).
Write this down every day, repeat it to yourself and act like it. Your identity was conditioned. Recondition yourself.
Use the Law of Inversion to identify all the things that would push you further away from your desirable outcomes. My Friend, the time is now.
Action.
You have likely tried goal-setting in the past - but to no real avail. I’m also doubtful you’ve delved very deep into your real desires.
They are yours to have and you are entitled to them as long as you take action.
Write again the 5 most desirable outcomes on your list.
Brainstorm 3-4 ways you might achieve each outcome.
These should be somewhat specific, but just write.
Search these up on Youtube. Go bananas.
Further, search on Google - “best books on [blank]”. Fill something in there.
Youtube and Google are your best friends. (Besides this blog, of course…)
Discover your real journey. Good luck my friend,
Riley.
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